One of the fattest issues with mature single women is the lack of older single dudes to date. ",Where are the fellows?", they ask.
Natalie, early 50s, Dana Point, California, says, ",There aren’t many places here for singles aged 50-60 to go.", And it’s not just in Dana Point or California, single dudes are lacking via the United States.
My response: ",There is no place in the United States that I’m aware of&mdash,where older fellows and women blend in relatively equal numbers to meet members of the opposite lovemaking.", (If there were such a place, it’d be so packed, people wouldn’t be able to get in the door.)
Some women are discouraged because there is no effortless way to meet fellows. To meet them requires an effort many are unwilling to make. And even if they make the effort, there is no assure of success, albeit their chances of meeting a potential mate will increase.
So, what can women do? They need to meet fresh people, which means they must get out of the house and get active. And when they meet fresh people, they will make fresh friends. An older single woman named Becky collective her story about the importance of meeting fresh people.
Becky, Philadelphia, met a man on an Internet dating site and agreed to meet him at a popular Philadelphia pub. Becky determined quickly he wasn’t the man for her. But, because she had been willing to risk meeting someone fresh, she ended up meeting a potential mate.
A local band was playing at the pub. During an intermission, the lead guitarist circulated among the audience, handing out his card, and invited people to his next gig.
Becky and the guitarist embarked e-mailing and did so as friends-only for months, while both dated other people. During a dating lull for both, he asked her out.
",Friends very first is superb. He knew my values before we even went out on our very first date,", said Becky. ",I usually can tell within two dates if a fresh relationship is going anywhere and we’ve made it past that &lsquo,two-date deadline.’",
Betty, 73, formerly of California, moved to Idaho. She says there aren’t many single boys in her age range there. To get out and get involved with fresh people, Betty signed up for a bus tour to attend an opera in a larger city and met a widower on the journey. They are now a duo. Meeting a man can happen to an older woman, but it won’t happen by staying home all of the time.
How do women meet fresh people? By pursuing activities that interest them. It doesn’t have to be an activity where studs are present nor does it have to be a ",singles function.", In fact, the ratio of single women to single guys at ",singles functions", is usually unfavorable for women. And the older the group of people, the worse the ratio will be.
Sarah, of Indianapolis, says, ",Just get out there and meet people, don’t leave behind your women friends, they have brothers and masculine friends.",
Church groups, hiking clubs, bridge clubs, volunteer work, working part time are just a few places where single women might meet single studs. But go for the joy and activities of being with fresh people. Don’t worry about meeting a mate, it may not happen. But, your life will become less lonely and much more joy.
You can even meet fresh fellows in your own home. Embark inviting friends to a weekly potluck and insist they bring a friend of the opposite hook-up they aren’t dating.
So where should women go to meet fresh people? Just about anywhere.
Article provided by Tom Blake, Finding Love After 50 columnist. For the most accomplish dating after 50 information site, visit Finding Love After 50.